in many different forms, such as attentiveness, listening, admiration, counsel, affirmation and time spent together” (1990, p. 7, italics in original). Dr. Carol Ahrens takes this discussion a step deeper, defining emotional dependency as “a state [italics added] in which a woman feels totally reliant on another woman for safety and functioning.… When a woman is emotionally dependent, she feels as though she literally cannot exist without the object of her dependency” (1991, p. 204).1 Dependency